I admit it. I have never cared much for Valentine’s Day. To know me and know this about me is shocking. In fact, my husband and I celebrate it with little fanfare. We spend treasurable time together, laughing, reminiscing, staying in tune with one another’s needs, sharing dreams for our children, our future and ourselves. We cherish the bond we have together, we embrace our individuality and we enjoy each other’s company immensely.
Yet, this is our cherished daily ritual.
We do not set aside this pattern of behavior for just an annual superficial holiday.
You see, Valentine’s Day actually breaks my heart into a million tiny pieces. It crushes my spirit and burdens my soul to know that we are automatically inclined to wait for this special day to say extraordinary words to significant people. And singles are forced to place their self-worth in what they see happening in the lives of others who are considered socially loved and accepted. It is a day for the value and beauty of love to become diminished and confused.
When I was a little thing my heart always belonged to my sweet Daddy. It still does actually! Never did the sun rise in the dawn of a new day or set in the evening that he failed to tell me he loved me. But it wasn’t the words spoken so much as how he made me feel in the way his heart communicated with mine. I can still feel the sweet memories.
I could never explain it, understand it, or even know why it was different. I only knew it was more. With my Daddy, there was always more. In fact, Daddy always said to me, “I Love You More”.
Even now, every time Daddy says “I Love You More”, I remember being that tiny little girl with bouncing pigtails and a gap toothed smile feeling excited, eager and tingling with anticipation as if there were something “more” to come! As I have found as an adult, I was absolutely, wholeheartedly correct.
My Daddy didn’t do anything but love me in his own unique way when I was his little girl, but he unknowingly laid the foundation for me to understand love as I do today; the perfect love of a Father for His children.
And so it is with God’s love for us. We have a Father in Heaven who loves us more; so much more than flowers, candy and a fluffy bear. It is never a mad dash to the local dollar store to secure something frivolous that will not last beyond the setting sun. In fact, “For God SO loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16.
There is nothing more than eternal life with a loving Father.
Now, that is an “I Love You More” kind of Love. If this were a competition, that was a checkmate.
It was blood, sweat and tears shed on an old wooden cross many years ago to secure his feelings for us every day going forward. He longs for us to feel his presence in our lives daily. He is always near wanting us to feel the excitement, eager with anticipation of the precious MORE he has for us!
There is more with Him than there could ever be without Him.
While the full measure of His extravagant love excites and empowers me, I am still saddened there were beautiful sons and daughters the whole world over yesterday who were lonely, misunderstood and feeling unloved. Some compared their self-worth to the highlight reel of social media Valentine’s Day. While I often wish I could make social media disappear, and yet I am often guilty of contributing to what I disdain most, I can only offer the truth of God’s Word and His extraordinary love to you in the hope you will feel…more…
Romans 8:38-39 tells us convincingly, “In all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, nor heavenly rulers neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
He Loves You More. Are you lonely, heartbroken, or desperate?
Did Valentine’s Day make it much worse for you?
Would you be willing to love Him more in exchange for hope and healing? In my mind and heart that looks a little like this:
- Spend time in the Word. Make a daily habit out of reading and studying God’s word. Matthew 6:33 tells us to “Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things (your needs) will be given to you as well.” He will reveal so much to you and knowledge and understanding will come as a result.
- Commit to Pray. As long as you can pray you can have hope. And as long as you have breath, you can pray. Prayer is powerful and can change things for you. James 4:8 promises us that if “we draw near to God, He will draw near to us”. And when He is near, there is ultimate comfort, peace and grace.
- Understand God loves you MORE. Did you know every time your heart breaks, every tear you cry and every sad thing you mourn God gathers up in the comfort of His loving embrace? Psalm 56:8 proves it! “You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.” Each one, my friends.
Fill your heart with more of the love He promises you, so much so that there isn’t room to contain it! There will be no choice but for it to spill out onto everyone who may bump into you along the journey of Life’s way.
Live an “I Love You More” Life. Jesus did. You’ll never be lonely, brokenhearted or desperate again.
Oh, and one more thing…I Love You…More!